It’s two days until Valentine’s Day, and the radio, television, and Internet commercials are not letting us forget it. What makes you feel loved, cherished, and blessed this time of year? What really makes your heart soar with love? Does your significant other have to follow the Hallmark formula of taking you out to a fancy candlelit dinner, buying you expensive jewelry, chocolates, and flowers, and stating the words, “I love you” in the perfect tone? Would you prefer to have your loved one show their love by giving you a handmade card, complete with sincere, heartfelt thoughts written in their own words? Maybe you’d rather forego the gift and card route entirely, spending quality time with your honey taking a drive, a hike, or playing a game? How about you? How to you show your love on Valentine’s Day?
Ideally, we should all show our love all year round, but this day makes it official. It also puts pressure on all of us, whether we’re married, dating, single or whatever the case may be.
Gifts and Creativity
Of course, we all enjoy getting gifts, but I personally prefer the thoughtful to the expensive. I’d way rather have somebody give me a gift of time than a pricey gem, sugary treats, or short-lived blooms. I’ll happily accept a thoughtful card or gift, as even the smallest gestures convey affection, but if my honey shows a little creativity, like leaving me a clever note that leads me to another note that eventually leads to a small yet significant gift or a shoulder massage and a glass of wine—I’m far more likely to feel truly loved than if they just bought something from the checkout line at the grocery store. Those types of gestures signify knowledge beyond the superficial. They mean that somebody is paying attention.
But that’s the issue, isn’t it? We can’t expect others to know what we really want—to know our heart—unless we let them know. Nobody really knows what gifts and gestures their loved ones appreciate the most unless they pay attention to the obvious and not-so-obvious clues and cues. Do you pay attention to your loved ones? Do you try to hear their hearts? Do you communicate clearly what you appreciate the most? As the song says, “You can’t always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you just might find, you get what you need.”
What kinds of Valentine’s Day gifts and gestures are your favorite? Do you feel like you know what your loved ones want? Let us know and do your best to celebrate love this Tuesday, whether you’re in a relationship or not!